Cohabitation Agreement

Party A

Trevor Pope

Party B

Kaitlyn Keller

Both parties enter this agreement with full understanding that its terms are non-negotiable. These are not preferences or suggestions. They are the conditions under which this arrangement is possible. By signing, both parties acknowledge they have read, understood, and agreed to each term in full. Failure to honor these terms is grounds for dissolving the arrangement.

Decision-Making & Household Authority

Trevor is the final decision-maker in the household. Once a decision has been made, it is made. It will not be revisited through argument, repeated pushback, or passive resistance.

Party B may express disagreement once, calmly, and from the heart. After that, the decision stands. There will be no back-and-forth, no escalating debates, and no continued pressure campaigns.

Raised voices, hostility, and aggressive communication are not acceptable in any form. If Party B cannot express a concern calmly and constructively, the conversation ends until that is possible.

The household will have no bad vibes. No walking on eggshells. No tension that hangs in the air. If the environment becomes toxic, the arrangement ends.

Priorities & Lifestyle

Trevor's priority order is: Work. Golf and friends. Family. This is not a reflection of love -- it is the structure that allows him to function at his best. Party B accepts this fully and without resentment.

When Party B or the girls genuinely need Trevor, he will show up. But his baseline life -- his routine, his schedule, his commitments -- does not get renegotiated because we share a home.

Golf, wine, dinners, travel, and time with friends are part of Trevor's life. They were before this arrangement and will continue to be. These are not up for negotiation.

Trevor works the hours he works. His work schedule is not a point of contention. He will not be made to feel guilty for working, for traveling for work, or for being unavailable during focus hours.

Household Standards

The home will be maintained at Trevor's standard. That standard is: clean, organized, minimalistic, and visually calm at all times.

Professional cleaning staff will be in the home a minimum of three days per week. This is not a topic for debate. If Party B wishes to supplement with her own cleaning, that is welcome. The cleaners stay regardless.

The home will be minimalistic. There will not be clutter, excess furniture, piles of items, or visual noise in shared spaces. If something cannot be stored properly and out of sight, it does not belong in the home.

The girls are welcome to have their belongings in their personal spaces. Common areas and Trevor's spaces remain minimal and clean.

If Trevor determines that something does not belong in the home, it will be removed. There will be no argument about it.

Staff & Assistants

Trevor will always have assistants and staff as part of his life and operation. This is not going to change. They are a fixture, not a novelty.

All staff are to be treated with genuine respect at all times. Not tolerated. Not iced out. Not made to feel unwelcome. Actually respected.

Past patterns where staff felt disrespected, excluded, or pushed away will not be repeated. This is a hard line. Trevor's operation depends on these people and their loyalty. Undermining that is a serious breach of this agreement.

Travel

Trevor travels regularly for work, golf, and personal enjoyment. Travel will continue at his discretion. Party B will not use travel as a source of conflict or guilt.

Seasonal commitments -- including time in Truckee each summer and regular trips to Palm Springs -- are part of his life and will not be treated as negotiable.

When Trevor travels, the household continues to operate normally. Party B is expected to manage the home and the girls without distress calls unless there is a genuine emergency.

Finances

Trevor's finances are his own. He manages them independently. There will be no expectation of full financial transparency, shared accounts, or joint financial decision-making unless explicitly agreed upon in writing.

Household expenses will be handled at Trevor's discretion. He will cover what he determines he will cover. Party B is expected to contribute at an agreed-upon level.

Trevor's spending on his lifestyle -- golf, wine, travel, dining, tools, and team -- is not subject to comment or critique. He has earned his standard of living and will maintain it.

Conflict & Communication

Arguments that escalate to yelling, name-calling, door slamming, or any form of aggression will not be tolerated. If a conversation reaches that point, it ends immediately and resumes only when both parties are calm.

Passive aggression, silent treatment, and cold energy directed at Trevor are equally unacceptable. These behaviors are toxic and will not be normalized.

Issues should be raised calmly, directly, and privately -- never in front of the girls, never in front of guests or staff.

Trevor is not willing to spend his life walking on eggshells in his own home. The baseline energy of this household will be warm, calm, and positive.

Signatures

By signing below, both parties confirm they have read this agreement in its entirety and agree to its terms.